Choosing love…

今天下午翻开了4年前的MSN Space，现在是Sina Blog了，看到以前好友写的一篇东西 当时给我好多启发。

the fear of loving someone is probably more intense and paralyzing than that of just of loving someone. loving someone too deeply, too hard, already makes you crazy and foolish enough to believe that love, true love, as what all fairy tales would have us believe, is able to conquere all difficulties and troubles. what is love though? a commitment to a common goal, a future together, or just an emotional and structural crutch by which we can live out the rest of our lives relying on? perhaps people get married and stay together not because they are in love, but rather they feel the need to have at least one person, one witness to their lives, to be there to share the ups and downs, the first pay raise, that first promotion, or any accomplishments and failures that the rest of the world out there would otherwise not give any attention to. maybe it’s just the need to be acknowledged, to have someone say that we matter.

when you love someone whom you know is unable to love you, or is only able to love you conditionally and second to someone else, should you stay or should you go? would you be with someone knowing that while he says he loves you, turns first to another for support and advice…even comfort? what if you will never be able to take the place of that person, because his need for her to be in his life outweighs the love that he has for you? what would you do then? would you crazily abandon all logic and senses to just follow your heart, no matter how heavy it may be, to risk it all on a chance that this could be that one-true love of your life? or would you choose to walk away, painful as it would be, simply knowing that above all, a love that is not reciprocated in full could never be a love complete?

should you continue to stay with someone whom you love, not in the romantic way, but a more familiar, almost platonic way, because you have become accustomed to having that person being such a significant part of your life thus far, that leaving him or her is almost an unimaginable, or rather, scary thought that you could not bring yourself to go through with? but what if that means giving up the chance to experience true, intense and passionate love, with all its trials, tribulations and heart-pounding moments?

what would you choose?